You can’t force your partner to change or heal in the ways you want them to. Even though you may think you know what is best for them and you see a clear way for them to deal with their inner issues or old pain, it does not work to push someone to do work that only they themselves can decide they are ready for. Of course, you can give suggestions and share what has helped you, but every person needs to walk the path of healing themselves, from their own volition. Love is founded on freedom, this implies that you need to lean into your acceptance and patience if you are committed to growing together. No relationship is without conflict or difficult moments, especially because individuals grow and heal at different speeds. At the same time, nothing should be taken to an extreme. Realizing that you have waited long enough and that you would benefit from being alone or finding a new partner who has the qualities you are looking for is something that needs to come from your own intuition and reasoning. The right action should emerge from within you and it should help bring balance to your life.