"The reason wellness has picked up so much steam and is now such a large movement is because people seriously want to transform their lives for the better, but we need to make sure that we don’t go the other way where we solely care for ourselves and feel fine about treating others harshly."
This speaks so strongly to me. I have been working on myself my entire life, and simultaneously, my relationships and connection are as important. I have noticed that this self-improvement movement and setting boundaries is going too far the other direction. People have no problem flaking out on plans, canceling one thing to do something better and generally not being disciplined or sacrificing at all in relationships. It is becoming a culture of "me" and what is best for "me." And that's great and important, but we are interdependent creatures and the side effect of this movement is that we have now have a society that is lonelier than ever, lacking social skills and burying themselves into technology and entertainment. I sincerely hope we swing now into the middle and learn to balance me vs. us.
This line really resonated with me as well. It's something that has made me feel uneasy for a few years now and to hear it encapsulated in the excerpt and your comment felt very validating that I'm not alone in my observation.
It feels like a cycle where I'm trying to hold space for people to go through their own growth journeys of establishing and readjusting boundaries, learning how to care for themselves etc. but I find myself needing to set boundaries with those that are more harsh in their prioritization of self where I'd naturally be more giving. The balance Diego speaks is my current goal. Learning to be considerate without neglecting yourself and be accepting rather than judgemental.
Yes! It really is a balance. I was thinking of something simple - how I am always bending to everyone else's restaurant choices because everyone has so many preferences now. Yet, if I set a boundary and ask that we go to a place where I want to go, people would just as quickly cancel and not come with me, yet I notice that I'll either eat a bit beforehand or push myself to try something new because connection is more important to me than having the exact meal I want to have. We are losing our ability to be flexible with a large array of choices and people only focusing on self.
So many juicy layers in this one, Diego.
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"The reason wellness has picked up so much steam and is now such a large movement is because people seriously want to transform their lives for the better, but we need to make sure that we don’t go the other way where we solely care for ourselves and feel fine about treating others harshly."
This speaks so strongly to me. I have been working on myself my entire life, and simultaneously, my relationships and connection are as important. I have noticed that this self-improvement movement and setting boundaries is going too far the other direction. People have no problem flaking out on plans, canceling one thing to do something better and generally not being disciplined or sacrificing at all in relationships. It is becoming a culture of "me" and what is best for "me." And that's great and important, but we are interdependent creatures and the side effect of this movement is that we have now have a society that is lonelier than ever, lacking social skills and burying themselves into technology and entertainment. I sincerely hope we swing now into the middle and learn to balance me vs. us.
This line really resonated with me as well. It's something that has made me feel uneasy for a few years now and to hear it encapsulated in the excerpt and your comment felt very validating that I'm not alone in my observation.
It feels like a cycle where I'm trying to hold space for people to go through their own growth journeys of establishing and readjusting boundaries, learning how to care for themselves etc. but I find myself needing to set boundaries with those that are more harsh in their prioritization of self where I'd naturally be more giving. The balance Diego speaks is my current goal. Learning to be considerate without neglecting yourself and be accepting rather than judgemental.
Yes! It really is a balance. I was thinking of something simple - how I am always bending to everyone else's restaurant choices because everyone has so many preferences now. Yet, if I set a boundary and ask that we go to a place where I want to go, people would just as quickly cancel and not come with me, yet I notice that I'll either eat a bit beforehand or push myself to try something new because connection is more important to me than having the exact meal I want to have. We are losing our ability to be flexible with a large array of choices and people only focusing on self.