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Your Healing Elevates the Relationship
If you allow the blocks within you to remain as they are and the wounds you carry to fester, then it will become easy to fall into a cycle where you are always looking for external validation. And that same lack of self-awareness will make it easy to constantly project the roughness that you feel onto others, especially those closest to you. Self-love is the missing piece in many relationships. This is why some of the most beautiful relationships develop over time and are spurred into evolution when both people realize that they have a lot to heal within themselves.
Even if the connection is strong, there still needs to be plenty of intentional time for the both of you to learn each other’s preferences as well as get a good sense of how your emotional history, traumas, and aspirations affect the way you both show up in your relationship. Even when the love between you flows easily, there will still be hurdles to overcome. Love opens the door to vulnerability, which will allow more of each of you to come to the surface. The welcoming of this vulnerability sheds further light on the patterns you each carry, the fears you are working on overcoming, and the deep hurt that you each have unconsciously carried throughout your lives. Open hearts need tender care and, though you both welcome vulnerability, it will take knowing each other well to learn how to properly hold space during these moments of healing revelation.
Since healing is the cultivation of harmony within the individual, there is a direct connection between the depth of your healing and your ability to navigate the ups and downs of a relationship. A perfect stream of happiness, joy, and unending fun is not possible between two people. Your imperfections, ego, and survivalist habit patterns will occasionally cause ruptures that create friction in your relationship. The outside world will also pose difficulties you will need to navigate and adapt to. But if handled skillfully these challenges can bring you two even closer than before by building trust and understanding.
One of the best ways to get to know yourself is through interactions with other human beings. Silent meditation retreats or deep one-on-one sessions with a therapist are extremely productive, but putting the skills you’ve developed into action in the real world builds self-awareness in a whole new way. Intimate relationships take those interactions to another level because you mutually decide to build a bond. Together, you take on the adventure of building a home where you both feel safe, free, and nourished.
The profound proximity of relationships makes them excellent incubators for personal growth. To be in each other’s presence not only allows you to practice love but also forces the ego to see itself, even if what you find is hard to bear. Proximity among imperfect human beings, even when they have cultivated a lot of emotional maturity and taken their inner work seriously, will eventually lead to some sort of discord or conflict. Try to look at these moments as opportunities for you both to see yourselves more clearly—moments where harmony has decayed so that it can be rebuilt with a wiser design.
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