The Right Timing and Relationships
Three thoughts:
If you find that you’re trying to force something to happen, let it go. Whether it is connecting with an individual or working on a new project that is dear to you, there is a certain balance of effort and ease that comes together when it is the right time for something to happen. Forcing often creates chaotic results that are not in line with what you originally aspired to. Especially with projects, sometimes there are false starts or you are a little too early for it to get traction. This message is not to be confused with the idea that what is for you will simply happen. The universe doesn’t work that way, effort and action is always required to create results because this realm of mind and matter is defined by cause and effect. If it’s something new you are creating that is important to you, let it rest and try again after some time. When it’s the right time, your effort will open up doors without forcing. It takes finding your middle path for things to truly flow.
Finding the right partner can make life beautiful, but only if you add to that beauty by doing your own inner work. Society has fed us the false story that a good partner can solve everything for us, that falling in love is the answer to our problems, but it is that type of mentality that causes many connections to break. We expect deep emotional solutions from each other that can only come from intentionally processing our own past. Feeling whole and loving yourself does not come from a relationship, it is something you have to spark from within. The type of security that’s truly life changing emerges from your healing and growth. The most profound happiness is not given, it is created by accepting yourself. A good partner can certainly share their joy with us, but we have to have our own inner joy to fully receive it.
Everyone has their own idea of how things should be. Some of our ideas will be similar and others will be radically different from each other. Even the ones that are incredibly similar do not line up perfectly. If you look closely, you will find some small divergence or another. This is why harmony is built on the concept of letting go. Because the spectrum of opinions is so vast, there is no way to perfectly please everyone. Whether in families, friendships, relationships or when considering larger groups like nations, our opinions and views will never precisely align. Compromise is a critical component that holds together a long-lasting connection. Repeatedly finding a middle path is what helps you continue taking steps forward together. If one person or group is always seeking every single thing they want to the point where they do not make space for compromise, then harmony is no longer possible. This sort of ego-dominance is a clear cause of conflict.
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Journal Prompt:
What was a time when forcing something just made things worse? How do you get yourself into a flow? What project or aspiration are you willing to give another shot? What is your relationship with compromise?
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