The Power of Consistency
The aspects of life that require slow work are usually things that will bring you the greatest sense of fulfillment.
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The Power of Consistency
So much of our society today is focused on speed and making things as easy as possible. Especially when you look at the apps on your phone, most of them are trying to make your life smoother and give you the things you want faster. This can create a strong illusion that it is possible for all aspects of life to become blissful, easeful, and problem free.
When you consider the challenging reality of healing yourself from past pain, developing your emotional maturity, spending time on accomplishing work goals, or even creating a culture of harmony in your relationship – these are things that wake you up from the illusion and make you realize that some of the most important parts of life require slow and gradual work.
There are some things that you just can’t buy an immediate solution for, and you simply have to accept the long journey in front of you. The aspects of life that require slow work are usually things that will bring you the greatest sense of fulfillment. Seeing your effort create new results is an incredible feeling.
No one can give you their inner peace, success is something you need to build overtime, and love between two people is a warm fire that needs intentional tending. In all three regards, it is your consistency that focuses your energy towards making your aim come true. Consistency is what makes your vision for a better future a reality because it brings your attention back to the present moment and helps you shape your current actions.
When it comes to inner work, you have to remember that the mind is largely shaped by repetition. The behaviors that you have repeated in the past are more than likely to appear in your present. If you want to open a new chapter in how your mind feels and how you show up in everyday life, then you have to focus on choosing new behaviors that are more aligned with who you are becoming. For example, choosing to slow down and reflect instead of reacting impulsively is something that needs to be repeated with consistency for it to become your new default. Just like any form of training, it can feel clumsy when it is new, but overtime you will fully adopt this intentional way of being. Choosing the right action in one moment is valuable, but choosing the right action consistently is life changing.
Overnight success in work is a myth. It takes many tiny steps forward to achieve great results. Usually, behind what looks like a meteoric rise, is the consistent effort of showing up every day and trying to figure out what else you can do to keep pushing your mission forward. No matter the field you are in, the product you want to create, or the service you want to offer, it takes the energy of not giving up and focusing on small victories to create a positive shift. When I first started writing and sharing things online in 2014, I only had 300 friends who followed me on my Instagram account. I started sharing reflections because meditating was creating a big change in my life and my intuition kept pointing me towards writing. I self-published my first book in 2017 when I had about 70k followers. All the growth was gradual and slow. I never had a post go mega-viral. All I knew was that I was enjoying writing and that some people were getting value from what I was offering, this helped me keep going. It wasn’t until my second book was published in 2021 that I felt like a real author. Now I am nearing almost 2 million books sold and I really owe that success to 3 things: I kept meditating daily and in long silent retreats, I kept writing even when I doubted myself, and my wife’s steady support.
In terms of relationships, you can love your partner greatly, but that will not necessarily mean that you know how to care for them. It takes time to learn your partner’s emotional history, their patterns, their triggers, and have a clear idea of how they like their happiness to be supported. Harmony in a relationship is not effortless, and it doesn’t just happen on its own. You not only have to keep getting to know your partner as they grow and evolve, but you have to keep uncovering yourself and building the self-awareness that you need to not get caught up in unproductive past patterns. One of the reasons love is rewarding is because it’s not easy. You and your partner have the task of building a nourishing culture and that is going to take reliability and steadiness. Your home becomes beautiful because of your effort. In a lot of ways, love is the patience to keep learning and making the adjustments that you need so that both of you feel your happiness supported.
Consistency is not about perfection, it is about having the courage and stamina to keep trying even when you make mistakes. Consistency is all about imperfect progress. You may stumble, but this does not stop you because you know it is worth your energy to keep going.
You can read a lot more about this topic in my new book How to Love Better. It is temporarily 33% off on Amazon.
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One of the things I always try to encourage my clients to do is come up with a daily morning practice even if it’s just 10 minutes something that they do consistently to build that trust in themselves and this has made a huge difference for me as well as my clients who take up the challenge. Thanks so much for what you’re putting out and I’m loving your book and sharing it with Clients.