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In the whirlwind of life it is, some days, much harder to stay grounded and calm. Coming up to 36yo single and not kids, I feel like I can’t escape judgements. The little steps I take are moments for myself to think and implant this certainty of thoughts that, this is my life, it is like no one else. Slowly focusing only on the present without continuing to carry my so heavy past or overthinking the future. Slowly learning to be with myself, in peace. To forgive, accept, surrender and let go of the rest. Learning how to breath and to observe.
I know all this, the practice isn’t that easy. The only commitment to Love I have lately, is to Love myself more.
I have Loved and been Loved in the past and one of the small steps for me is daily letting go of the idea of Loving this man and focusing on the experience and lessons I have learned about myself. Grateful I have known this and thankful it helped shaping me to the me today. Hard work. Some plateau moment, some moments I feel I’m stepping backwards but then I remember it is all part of the transformation, I accept it, breath thought it.
I have a strong believe that, the day I feel I will open myself again and let of the fears, I will meet a person that will enhance my happiness. I have no doubt, none for a second, that this person will be respectful, loving, caring and we will be right for each other. Until then, I will be focusing on finding myself, knowing myself and working on being my happier self.
Intuition for me only feels like making a choice that feels right to me at the time, it’s agreeing with myself while sometimes I’m being guided in a direction. I can’t explain, it just takes me there. Once you’ve agreed, there’s no going back, you cannot come back at yourself angry or with regrets because you have agreed in the first place. Be in peace with your choices, this will help be in peace with yourself and build more trust within you.
I keep reading about not forcing life forward, and remaining in flow. How do I know the difference between pushing forward and needing to take action or make a decision. How do I wait patiently in thanks for where I am, and at the same time manifest a new life and desire change?
I wonder about this idea of love's closest synonym being freedom. I think of love more as being synonymous with belonging.
Within belonging there needs to be the spaciousness to bring our gifts (and fears, and pains) to the circle, otherwise we can't truly belong. When I think of freedom I feel undertones of separateness and independence and often a very unidirectional individual purpose. I think in belonging there is space to relax deeply into who we are, what we have to offer, and what we need to receive. There is, I find, more freedom in belonging, than there is in freedom. To me, that belonging feels like love.
I’d be interested in hearing your thoughts about expectations (from ourselves and others) that are put on us and how we can navigate that better. Also thank you for creating this community. I’m really looking forward to using this space as a way to grow spiritually and mentally 💙
In the whirlwind of life it is, some days, much harder to stay grounded and calm. Coming up to 36yo single and not kids, I feel like I can’t escape judgements. The little steps I take are moments for myself to think and implant this certainty of thoughts that, this is my life, it is like no one else. Slowly focusing only on the present without continuing to carry my so heavy past or overthinking the future. Slowly learning to be with myself, in peace. To forgive, accept, surrender and let go of the rest. Learning how to breath and to observe.
I know all this, the practice isn’t that easy. The only commitment to Love I have lately, is to Love myself more.
I have Loved and been Loved in the past and one of the small steps for me is daily letting go of the idea of Loving this man and focusing on the experience and lessons I have learned about myself. Grateful I have known this and thankful it helped shaping me to the me today. Hard work. Some plateau moment, some moments I feel I’m stepping backwards but then I remember it is all part of the transformation, I accept it, breath thought it.
I have a strong believe that, the day I feel I will open myself again and let of the fears, I will meet a person that will enhance my happiness. I have no doubt, none for a second, that this person will be respectful, loving, caring and we will be right for each other. Until then, I will be focusing on finding myself, knowing myself and working on being my happier self.
Intuition for me only feels like making a choice that feels right to me at the time, it’s agreeing with myself while sometimes I’m being guided in a direction. I can’t explain, it just takes me there. Once you’ve agreed, there’s no going back, you cannot come back at yourself angry or with regrets because you have agreed in the first place. Be in peace with your choices, this will help be in peace with yourself and build more trust within you.
Sending much Love to all.
Love, Always
A xx
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Can you truly experience freedom with a commitment to someone else?
How to trust that everything in our life, even our biggest regrets, was meant to be; that we are exactly where we are meant to be?
Beautifully written! Makes me wonder how I am giving my friendships the freedom that they need.
I keep reading about not forcing life forward, and remaining in flow. How do I know the difference between pushing forward and needing to take action or make a decision. How do I wait patiently in thanks for where I am, and at the same time manifest a new life and desire change?
I wonder about this idea of love's closest synonym being freedom. I think of love more as being synonymous with belonging.
Within belonging there needs to be the spaciousness to bring our gifts (and fears, and pains) to the circle, otherwise we can't truly belong. When I think of freedom I feel undertones of separateness and independence and often a very unidirectional individual purpose. I think in belonging there is space to relax deeply into who we are, what we have to offer, and what we need to receive. There is, I find, more freedom in belonging, than there is in freedom. To me, that belonging feels like love.
I would like to know your thoughts on long distance relationships.
I’d be interested in hearing your thoughts about expectations (from ourselves and others) that are put on us and how we can navigate that better. Also thank you for creating this community. I’m really looking forward to using this space as a way to grow spiritually and mentally 💙
Wow
This is one of the most beautiful articles I have ever read in quite some time.