After The Breakup

6 Reflection Questions That Can Help You Thrive Again

Since a breakup is literally a break, the end of a chapter in your life, the only real option is to let this become a moment of rebirth for you. This is clearly a time of sorrow, but it can also be one where you unflinchingly stand in your power. The hurt is real but so is the potential for you to emerge as a restored and revitalized version of yourself.

After the breakup, it’s important to soothe yourself back into calmness so you can realign and reconnect with your inner stability. This may take days, weeks, or even months, it all depends on how long you were together and the amount of hurt you feel. Remember, even if you were the one who initiated the breakup, you can still feel plenty of grief and a sense of loss. If you were on the receiving end of the breakup, this can shake you even more deeply. Either way, the need for healing and moving forward is clear in both situations.

Remind yourself that you are not permanently broken and that your value as a human being is not in question. Feelings of unworthiness are common in this state, but you should not believe them. Your value is not determined by what people think of you, your value is a wellspring that emerges from within. The emotional heaviness, the tears, the loneliness, the feeling of regret, all this turbulence will not last forever.

As you regain your footing and get a little more comfortable with this new chapter you have entered, it is worth asking yourself some serious questions. Use self-reflection as a way to learn more about yourself, what went wrong, and how you can do things better in the future. This is the time for you to redirect your story. Use this as a period of self-reflection so you can walk forward with new wisdom that helps you be more intentional in life.

1. What narratives have you been holding onto that are not serving you well? The stories in your mind that used to bind together your old relationship should be intentionally released. You can certainly live a great life without your former partner. You are strong enough to redesign your life into something beautiful. Any narrative where you see yourself needing them to thrive is untrue.