One of the most beautiful ways to express your love for another human being is to do your best to see them clearly.
This is possible when you understand that past conditioning will often color your view of what another person is saying and doing. The hurt you carry, the trauma you may have experienced, the inevitable down moments of life, will adjust your perception overtime, usually in a defensive direction. Often when you look at another, you will initially see your own emotions instead of seeing the person as they are. When it comes to love, the past can sometimes be our biggest obstacle in developing a healthy and vibrant connection.
If you want to love another person well, you have no other choice but to journey inward and make sure that the love within you is open, inviting, and that it is ready to receive and give nourishment. The best way to do this is by putting effort into three things:
Spending time examining your emotional history. This will help you understand yourself completely. It will show you your strengths and the parts of you that need healing. What is within you will manifest itself in your relationship one way or another, so it will serve you to be aware of your deepest patterns.