7 Thoughts About Love And Its Challenges
An Attachment To Perfection Makes Love Harder
Perfection is a roadblock in relationships. The idea that many unconsciously carry is that once you are with the right person all hardships and challenges will be over, but that is completely unrealistic. The attachment to perfection is hard to overcome because it is deeply ingrained within us to crave pleasantness as the default of life, we want everything to function smoothly and joyfully, but that is not possible because ups and downs are a part of existing.
We often fail to consider that ego is an imperfect mechanism, our own and our partner’s. Perception can easily be twisted, rough emotions can make us negative, the past can make us overly defensive – unhealed and untrained minds can create problems for two people who love each other. Egos are innately rough; when two people come together there is the potential for friction.
Many relationships that could have worked have been cut short because one or both partners walked away as soon as challenges started arising. It is not possible or healthy to expect the person you like or love to act flawlessly and always say the right things. If we are not willing to face difficulties in a relationship, we are basically asking each other to put on a performance, one where you have to hide your vulnerability and cannot show the full range of your thoughts/emotions.